The heaping piles of stuffed animals, towering collections of Barbie dolls, and rising mountains of creations do not lend themselves to the belief that only one child does indeed live in this small house with us. Your eyes feast upon the piles, collections, and mountains and you think to yourself, surely they must have at least 4 children. Yes, it’s that bad.

Some psychology laden folks try to “help” us and cajole us into accepting that we are compensating for our sadness over just one little heart growing up, building memories with us. That we are trying to create an environment of many out of just one.  Make no mistake, we are sad. But we are hopeful. We know that another little heart will join us someday, somehow, by some means or another.

And I learned the other day that Maddie is not the only little heart growing up and building memories with us. She has sisters. Three of them in fact. I’ve known that she is close to her cousins for certain. They are nine, seven, and just turned five and we are soon to be five.  They might not share the same mom or even dad with my soon to be fiver, but they are sisters no less.

I saw this with such clarity when I received a text asking why I was such a “meanie.” A meanie of the worst variety for not bringing Maddie over to her cousins this weekend. They couldn’t possibly spend time at Grandma’s house without Maddie. So three bags, three cards, and what seemed like fourteen suitcases later we arrived at Grandma’s house and I lost my daughter to her sisters.

There they were hugging upon arrival. There they were immediately pouncing on the dress up clothes, planning some sort of show. There they were wrapped around each other like pretzels, pouring over the game in the corner of the gigantic sectional on that very hot day. There they were arguing over who was taller, when the answer was clear. There they were going to the oldest to decide. There they were whispering and giggling like two little old ladies. There they were. Sisters. In every sense that matters.

We may have just one in our house but we have so many more in our hearts and we are all building memories together.

9 thoughts on “Sisters

  1. Your writing style is beautiful. Family is such an important word for us to define for ourselves and our children. She clearly has a wonderful family and many sisters. Thanks for sharing our stories.
    Clare and Tammy

  2. How bittersweet with the lovely tidbits of one your one beautiful daughter in contrast to the fact that she is an “only” at this point. I hope she gets a sister or brother one day but cousins are the next best thing. I was an “only” for almost 7 years and was lucky to have 6 cousins that included me in everything. I’m forever indebted to them and still as close as ever. So lovely this post.

  3. I absolutely love this! It immediately brought me back to the times I got to spend with my “sisters” as a child. Maddie is so lucky to have such a great family, and a Mama who is masterfully collecting memories for her:)

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