Not Your Normal Day Off

We’ve been down this road before with family. My little heart of hearts is a battle warrior when it comes to dealing with loss. We have never hidden her from it and have always encouraged her to express her feelings in her own time and most importantly, have been inspired by how each subsequent loss we’ve experienced has grown the love in her heart where we feared it would foster darkness. Her insight about her own feelings and care she shows for others is far beyond.

So, I was taken aback by her fleeting sad face and then immediate request to play tic tac toe, when I sat her down to tell her about this loss. This loss that is a part of our world, but more a part of her own little world, that only dabbles in ours. Even more taken aback that she never brought it up again throughout the day.

I should not have been surprised though. My battle warrior simply had her armor on. She needed time to work through her own thoughts and navigate her feelings. And did she ever. Our day off, normally spent playing and watching tv, was spent opening our hearts to the sadness. Allowing sadness to open to sunshine.

“We need sunshine, momma. Ms. Joyce made her room sunshine, remember?” So sunshiny flowers were sought, for school and for home, a vase decorated, a sign made.

“Do you think there is sunshine in heaven?” So we talked about how beautiful heaven must be.

“Do you think she’s playing with Opa?” So we shared stories of silly Opa and silly Joyce and how they simply must be playing.

“How will she know I love her momma?” So we got out the paper and made cards for her to see when she’s looking down on us.

The head to toe pink ensemble is all laid out to honor, complete with socks emblazoned with LOVE. Because my little girl, while in the midst of a loss, has a heart filled with love.

In the words of Maddie:
I love you and I miss you and I miss miss miss miss you cuz I love you. I love you cuz you are the best techr.




5 thoughts on “Not Your Normal Day Off

  1. Ms. Joyce is most certainly looking down and smiling. Her presence will be felt at Sandbox today as our little angels pay tribute to an amazing woman who helped us raise such amazing children!

  2. We love how you wrote this piece – -you slowed it down so we could experience with you. Also love how you gave her the space to feel and decide how to mourn. Thank you for sharing
    Clare and Tammy

  3. This is a beautiful tribute to an obviously special teacher. Love and prayers to all who need it in their time of loss. Love you guys.

  4. I like the patience you showed with Maddie, working out her feelings, and when she was ready, helping her do what she felt best, the flowers and the cards. What a lovely tribute to this special teacher.

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